Therapy for the heart:
Dr. Sehl runs "Therapy For The Heart" a YouTube channel dedicated to developing the public's understanding of what psychotherapy is like, and extending awareness of Modern Psychoanalysis. Subscribe and comment!
YouTube viewer's comments: Therapists and the general public have found these videos helpful. Below are viewer's unsolicited comments:
Tillie the cat commented on a video on YouTube.
Glad I found your videos Dr Mark, you do answer many questions about how psychotherapy works. I'll discuss the expression of anger with my therapist next time...I'm a big talker and tend to over analyse and disect things that I feel and do however, I can't see myself expressing anger towards my therapist. My anxiety is so bad (probably due to years of abuse started in infancy) that I barely leave home knowing that I intend on doing a degree which entails to speak two languages, can't get to work my spanish. Grrrrr!!! ;) 32nd Talk On not expressing my feelings
March 17, 2017
I am glad you fond me also. Thank you for your comment. What I said in the video about expressing anger should not be generalized and happens only when the situation between pt. and therapist is ready for that. Don't expect that. It will come if the time is right. And does not have to come to have successful therapy. Remember that. Not all therapists think like me. Good luck. Can I post your comment with your name or initials on my YouTube viewer comment page?
Mark, your hiatus doesn't mean anything, glad you're back. Regarding the approach of modern psychoanalysis toward self-loathing, is the main therapeutic action the gradual expression of the anger--anger turned toward the self and resulting in depression--towards the correct person/object who the anger was directed against? havadatequila March 11, 2017 Talk 31, On not expressing feelings
Mark's response it's better that the anger is gradually turned towards the therapist when the patient is ready in small doses. The therapist will not retaliate, making it a safe situation for the person to be authentic. Eventually the feelings may or may not be directed at the original object. 3/11/17
Mark's response it's better that the anger is gradually turned towards the therapist when the patient is ready in small doses. The therapist will not retaliate, making it a safe situation for the person to be authentic. Eventually the feelings may or may not be directed at the original object.
I like your videos, they are very insightful! :)
Dr. Blue on 10th talk treatment of alcoholism March 2017
Important stuff. Thanks for sharing this video. I'm looking forward to learning more about this topic.
Grambi March on talk 31` On not expressing your feelings
So glad these videos are back! You have really helped me to figure out what I wanted out of the therapy experience. I struggled for a long time to find a therapist who fit with me and met my needs. I have learned so much from you. I have sorta become a therapy nerd! Who knows maybe I'll be a therapist one day. Thanks for doing this channel. It has really meant a lot to me.
Catie P. On Not Following Your Dreams, 30th Talk March ‘17
Great talk Mark! On Not Following Your Dreams, 30th Talk March ‘17
Thank you Mark for sharing such an important topic. Without judgement we are all able to investigate our inner longings to the fullest. Not only judgement from others at a young age but from ourselves as we journey through our lives. it was great to see the face and hear the voice behind the wonderful artwork you share with us occasionally. Thank you! Lola King SCM-CCC, CGRS,
This made my day! I have so missed your presence, via the warm, informative and helpful talks. Please know you are admired and that provide comfort by giving us all your knowledge and views.
Re: talk 30 On not following your dreams Kathleen Stetler 2/28/2017
Thank you Mark for this video. Please may I have your permission to post it (and subsequent ones) to my psychotherapy Facebook page? I think the more information clients and potential clients have about therapy and what they can expect, the better. It may help to lessen the shame that stops us all from showing our real selves and thus having real contact. :) x Re: 1st Talk What makes for a good psychotherapy session and why 2/28/2017 Liz Leech
This video was very informative, it wasn't authoritative, it was a gentle approach that grabbed the attention.
greenfaceman Feb. 2017
Dear Dr. Sehl,
I am writing this e-mail simply to say “thank you” for the videos you have shared on youtube.
I recently started therapy due to having difficulty to fall asleep. Curiosity about therapy brought me to your youtube channel. I appreciate how you explain and show simple human emotions, which in fact can often be so difficult to understand. I admire the great friendship you had with Dr. Lucas. Thank you for sharing that! I wish it had more views. Especially I like video "Dr. Lucas and Mark Sehl walk the streets, Oct. 10, ’14”. I like how a simple 5min walk can contain so much emotion. I am grateful for technology to be able to see these videos made on the other side of the world.
I am grateful for people like you for sharing such videos.
Ieva from Latvia 2/10/2017 Re: the videos with Dr. Gerry Lucas
Hello Dr. Sehl, I am clinical psych student getting ready to start internship in the fall. I have very much enjoyed watching your videos. I am wondering if you would consider making a video about working with erotic transference in psychotherapy? This is a seldom-addressed topic in training even though it is a fairly common occurrence, and can be challenging for therapists. Danielle, 7/20016
Hello, I am a scientist, specifically, toxicologist in Mexico. I am under psychotherapy right now and I have seen some of your videos on youtube and I find them very useful. As a patient, it is important to understand a bit more about the theory of psychotherapy and how it works. Thank you for your videos!
Regards, Irasema. I. C. L. 6/2016
Coming back to these after a long break - very informative,and a great learning tool. Thanks so much for giving your time and knowledge. Two Thumbs Up! Mark Kelly, on Video 1, May 23, 2016
I very much appreciate your authenticity and genuineness. I think I can only strive to approximate what you demonstrated here. Quite the statement about the vicissitudes of becoming and being human. Thank you! As an aside, do you know much about who was contemptuous towards your father? seanmcg1122 commented on a video on YouTube. May 2, 2016 response to 21st Talk- i wrote back that I did not know who was contemptuous
Hi. I have just found your page. I am a second year student in humanistic psychotherapy and I have found how you approach this first session very useful. I took a lot from your tone, calmness and how you communicate what you do. I really appreciate the information. Thank you Anne-Kirsten MacLachlan Talk 1, April 30, 2016
Wow, this video series has really encouraged me to try therapy and to follow your references in psychoanalysis, even though I have no background in the area. Very engaging, great teaching. . . Just found a psychoanalyst in my area who is willing to see me. Something I wouldn't have considered before watching your videos. Sofia Machado Dibble March 8 and 10, 2016 15th talk
Video farewell to Dr. Lucas
I am extremely sorry for your loss. I may not know you and Gerry personally but through your videos it was apparent that you two carried a strong, and powerful relationship. I applaud Gerry for all of his great accomplishments. And yourself, for being with him every step of the way. You are truly a great person. This video must have taken a lot ofcourage, so thank you for informing us. May Gerry rest in peace. courage, so thank you for informing us. May Gerry rest in peace. Nathalie Tinoco
"Thank you, Dr. Sehl. This is very helpful and a wonderful refresher. I particularly appreciate the distinction you made between psychoanalysis and cognitive behavioral therapy, the notion of 'joining' with the patient's defenses, and reminders about the importance of talking about and working with counter-transference feelings in supervision. Again, thanks!" Jennifer Sandoval, PhD 2nd talk Feb. 22, 2016
"This is the kind of video I was looking for. You are giving the basic elements of what psychotherapy is and the reasons for the emotional and mental problems people have. I'm looking forward to seeing all of them. It's so important to understand ourselves. I am enjoying them a little at a time and profiting from your understanding of the human heart." comment on Second Talk TM 2/15/16
I am 2 years into my advanced diploma in psychotheraputic counseling and you my friend have taught me so much in this short video. Thank you Andrew Murray on 2nd Talk Jan. 2016
Am really liking the videos please keep them coming. Rebecca
wish you practiced in the uk!! Jan 7. 2016
Another great video - thank you Mark. I hadn't heard of the term 'transference resistance' before, so your explanation was very helpful and welcome. I have to admit to feeling under pressure to answer when a client asks me a personal question but now realize that I am missing an opportunity to gain a valuable insight into my client by answering immediately. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. :) Liz Leech on 2nd talk 12/21/15
"Your videos really explain a complicated theorist's work in a down to earth way. Nice to meet you!' comment by R Kiki Weingarten about the work of Dr. Hyman Spotnitz 12/15/15
"It's really the guard's responsibility to own their own sadistic impulses. Welcome Aquarius" Chris Caldwell commented on the 21st Video 12.7.15
"This was really interesting. I´m a psychologist and I´m starting out as a body-oriented psychotherapist and my patient has OCD and has a great need to talk, so I just let him and I try to be mindful of not saying something just to say something, because its true, I´m still getting to know him." Veronica Lopez, on Talk 1 Nov. '15
Mariteta Xilouri 40 minutes ago · LINKED COMMENT
I have been doing psychotherapy for many years and now I am doing psychoanalysis as a patient and for what I have understood, countertransference and transference are very important and not much thought of so far. Thank you for this video, it gives a good insight on that issue. 9/17/15
Paulette Sherman 10 hours ago · LINKED COMMENT
"Hi Mark, great video. I love the Winnicott quote too. It's important to educate people about therapy and this video was very helpful." in response to Talk 1 -8/10/15
"Great info. I'd love to hear more about the roots of mental distress and how they manifest into self-destructive thoughts (subconscious and conscious) and behaviors. It's very helpful to listen to your dialogical approach of discussing these ideas. It feels much more genuine and engaging than a speech or a lecture. Keep it up!" Brad Eitner, June 23, 15
What a lovely tribute to Dr. Lucas and those who were close to him. Beautifully said Dr. Sehl. You provided Dr. Lucas with a great deal of comfort and joy at a time when he was very vulnerable. You had a very special relationship. Here's to Gerry! Chantel M. 37th Talk, Farewell to Dr. Lucas and Gerry and Mark's day
"Your teachings are valuable to anyone involved in psychotherapy whether as therapists, patients or those with an interest in the topic. Delivered with heart as always. Keep them coming." Chantel M. 28th talk "Difficult Patient or Difficult Therapist", June 23, 15
Thank you for the clear examples on transference, transference resistance and countertransference.
Sloan Benson on 2nd Talk., May, 2015
Congratulations and thank you for sharing your videos. It was a very good way to reflect upon my work as a psychotherapist, never losing the sight that we are first of all vulnerable individuals. I will continue to follow your videos with great interest! Rita Gasper 5/5/15 2nd Talk
"I know i should always be my best, but at the same time I like the idea of accepting my imperfections ... After all this is me!" (this was in response to the talk "Visit with Dr. Lucas" published April 17th, 2015 where I posted a viewer's comments on perfection) . . ." By the way, as a person who is keen on self improvement i recently came across and started seeing your most valuable "Talk on Psychotherapy" series and found it beneficial to follow this channel... and I'm so glad that now I am communicating with you ... best wishes for you Dr." Majid Najafi, April 20, 2015
"It is very difficult to find a suitable and good experienced psychotherapist. Perhaps what you are doing will help raise the bar.
Dr Sehl, is this your consulting room we can see in the background?" Diane S. April 11, 2015 response to the 25th talk part 2- Are Feelings Good or Bad
Hello Mark--I have enjoyed your psychotherapy videos a great deal. I trained as a psychotherapist in the 90's but stopped short of internship so never finished my Ph.D. Instead we adopted a baby born in China, and I've been mothering since that time. Two years ago I began a psychoanalytic therapy relationship due to depression. I have come to realize that at age 64 the desire to be an analyst has been re-awakened. Not sure where my path is yet, but I have been so touched by your love and care for Dr. Gerry Lucas. In a way that I do not yet understand, those videos have tugged me forward inwardly to consider working as a therapist again. So I am writing you to say hello, and I like you sharing the real you very much. Finding the real you day by day is a treasure for yourself and everyone else, too. Keep on going. Sincerely, G. W." 4/1/15
"I found listening to this helpful. It reminded me of the benefits I experienced in therapy as a patient in the past. Thank you." Robert Ede Cooper March 22, 2015 2nd Talk What Makes for a Good Therapy Session
"Dr. Sehl Thank you for sharing. I hope you make more longer videos, because I just love your beautiful and comforting voice, and sincere talking. I listen to you when I do my work and chores. I like you and look forward to seeing more of your wonderful therapy videos." Mary from Canada, March 20, '15 - comment on the 18th talk-"On Choosing a Therapist"
Great line, "I'm not like TED talks, I'm sorry." Your "realness" is inspiring" Ginger re: 25th talk March 10, 2015
"I live in Finland and I'm a native Finnish. I really like your talk-videos on Youtube. Watching your videos helped me to increase my understanding of my relationships. Not only the ones experienced as an adult, but as a child." Juha M. March 3,'15
"Wise words Dr. Sehl. Enjoyed your delivery also." Chantel M. 25th talk part 2 Feb. 20, 2015
"Authentic as usual Dr. Sehl. You continue to show us how to be a truly human therapist. Very nice piece on "Good or Bad Feelings". Eric Williams 25th talk part 2 March 1, 2015
Rebecca Long said I could quote her. She wrote that like twelve year old Rebecca (yes coincidentally they have the same name) listening to the psychotherapy videos helped her also and she wanted to be a therapist. . . "that's two Rebecca's so far." R. Long read the tweet "The fetus can be severely affected by couples fighting during pregnancy" talk 25 From Rebecca's tweet @RebeccaLong1986 on Feb. 20, 2015.
"How are you? Just a quick thank you from Vienna, Austria for your great videos. I am currently finishing writing a book about my (good) experience with psychotherapy and the many unforeseen benefits. Watching your videos has been a great stimulus and made me include some personal stories I would have forgotten to include. You seem very genuine and seem to have worked a lot on yourself. It s nice to see that!"
Andreas K. Feb. 18, 2015
Rebecca who is 12 years old wrote me that after listening to my therapy videos she wanted to be a therapist. That was a confirming sweet message that the videos are connecting with even young people and helping them see psychotherapy as as possible career choice. 1/2015
"Really enjoying your videos on your channel 'therapy for the heart.' I am a fifth year transpersonal intergrative therapy student. I am finding your talks useful in my work with my own clients, so thank you for that! I live and practice in the Uk." Laina Cheek Jan. 2015
"I really like how you begin this talk speaking about how we are all alike and that others with psychological problems are not essentially different than any of us. We all have similar fears and resistances, simply as human beings. Thank you, again, for these video talks. "
John Babbitt, reaction to talk 7 11/20/14
"Thank you. Just listening to your videos I find helpful, comforting, encouraging and pointing me in a constructive direction for finding the right therapy and therapist. You very clearly and definitely exemplify compassion and equanimity and a welcoming spirit. I like how you present yourself as a caring human being first, and a therapist, second. I have a deep respect for Freud and his radical contribution to understanding our humanity, our difficulties, challenges and what it means to look with honesty and caring upon ourselves."
John Babbitt, reaction to talk 2, 11/19/14
"I have been watching your videos for a while now and I would like to thank you for sharing them! I find them very interesting and useful. I especially appreciate that you give personal examples which raises your credibility!" Oct. 2014
"Hello Mr. Sehl I am a psychotherapy trainee and I have just watched your first video which I found really helpful as it brought together all of my own experience and the theory that I have been learning into a really practical, calm, talk of what its really all about." Calvin Hume Somerset England Oct. 9, ‘14
"Dr. Sehl, thank you so much for sharing your kindness and your heart with us. I have found myself very comforted by watching your videos. I appreciate you very much." 6/5/14 Heidi Jones re: 24th talk
"Thank you so very much for making all these videos. I have been studying psychology for a few years, something my family has advised against since I started. I've been pulled back and forth, but after watching so many of your videos and doing my own research I have found that this is what I want to do with my life. My whole life revolves around studying the human mind, and so I really appreciate you making these videos.Thank you!" Jayde Logan
"Dear Dr Sehl, I am a student counselor based in Dublin and find your videos on intervention really useful." Comments on the 6th talk- Silence as an Intervention
"Thanks for your video. You described well the qualities of a sensitive therapist, as well as what the ultimate goal of therapy is." Jane Fry 1st Talk
"Hi, Dr Sehl. I'm a therapist from Iran and I'm watching your videos. They are really helpful for me and I like your approach and thank you very much indeed." Zara Aghayan
“Hello mark! I'm a masters of counseling student from Australia and stumbled across your vid tonight. I really got a lot out of this video.” Elizabeth Wei 8th Talk
"Thank you, the talk was very helpful and informative. thank you for reminding us to be human with the people we serve." Third Talk, Antonio Rivera
"Really enjoyed this one! You have a very calming, caring manner. Nice work."
Third talk Ann Whelan April 17, '14
"Dear Mark Sehl,
Thank you for your generosity in putting up your videos on psychotherapy. I am taking a course in Psychology and thinking about studying psychotherapy afterwards. I am very inspired by and appreciative of your work. Wishing you a happy continuation." Kindest Regards, Cassy 1/12/14
"I've seen a few of your videos, and I like the way you think.
A lot of the times, therapists are patronizing because they believe they are the expert and you are "sick". They treat clients like bad children, and not like equal human beings.
I know I am not sick. I am a smart, talented, young woman. I just hurt a lot, because of my early experiences. But therapists don't understand that. They are in a rush to feel competent at what they do (understandably so). And if I don't respond the way they want me to, they reject me.
I wish I could find someone like you, anyone really, therapist or not, someone who is willing to listen." Virtualmint 1/13/14
"I came across your videos while searching for information about Hyman Spotnitz. I was introduced to his ideas by a psychologist I met at a party in NYC earlier this year. Your videos are very helpful and I like your approach and manner--very genuine, unpretentious and knowledgeable." Thank you for posting them! Richard Patik 6th talk December, 2013
"Dear Dr. Sehl,
I was searching the web for examples of therapy sessions and found your youtube videos. Thank you for posting them! I really enjoyed watching, and I have learned a great deal from them." December, 2012
"Firstly, I just wanted to let you know that I find your youtube videos incredibly informative and comforting. Your perspective on therapy is very compassionate and lovely to hear." Nov. 22, 2013
"Just finished Dr. Scharff's book about projective and introjective Id. This video was helpful in understanding those concepts." talk 21
"This video really hit home. My therapist commented that my anxiety toward work was a projection of my own fear of rejection. I feared rejection immensely and was sure that others were rejecting me outright (which was not true). When you say that we do to ourselves what was done to us, I couldn't agree more. I have realized in therapy that my own critical inner voice was born in childhood. I am very unkind to myself. Hard to believe how timely this particular video is for me! Thank you!" talk 21
"You are a very caring therapist and person and your knowledge helps me understand my role in psychiatry. I like Winnicott also!" 3rd talk
"Started psychodynamic therapy last year-very different from former CBT. These videos are very helpful to understanding what's happening to me. Thank you." talk 1
"Incredible, moving video. I really appreciate and am inspired by your honesty about what you did and what you were experiencing in the sessions. Poignant "necessary entanglements." Thank you for this video." talks 8 & 9
"Thank you for these great education videos. I loved your video on the hate in counter-transference. I'm actually reading Winnicott's paper on this topic and your case presentation complimented this paper very well."
"Thanks for the videos. I am graduating in a month with a psych major and plan to be a therapist so this is the stuff I can't wait to learn about! Your understanding of narcissism is very enlightening. I totally understand how that could be a shield. Thanks again!"
"I'm a psychotherapy student here in NZ and really enjoyed your authenticity and lovely genuine nature, I took a lot from this video, thanks." from a student in New Zealand
"I am studying a masters in counseling psychology in Australia and have found your posts very helpful, informative and interesting to listen to."
"Greetings, I am a future student of psychoanalysis. You're doing a great job by creating these videos, they really helped me understand what working with people really is like. Keep it up!"
"Our world needs to remember what psychotherapy is, how it works and how it can help. Relationship and trust are so vital to emotional healing! Thank you for this conversation."
"Sorry, pressed the send button by mistake. I also studied at a psychoanalytic institute in Boston for a bit as well. I like Spotnitz because he has such a "can do" attitude about the treatment of schizophrenia. Also, I like his directives about what to do in therapy. So much psychoanalysis seems to be about conceptualizing the inner world leaving new therapists wondering what to do in the sessions."
" Thank you for your video's, I find them very interesting. I am a Dutch psychologist and have stumbled upon your video's by accident. You come across as very genuine and accepting."
You are truly a precious gem and an example for all mental health care professionals! You give us hope that there are good therapists and that it is possible for people to become them still. I hope many, many, people see your videos and learn the invaluable lessons you teach :D!"
"I am really enjoying the program, I am learning a lot and suddenly undergrad is starting to make sense :)
Our amazing 'Theories of counseling' lecturer Dr Pieter Rossouw showed the class your first posts and that's how I heard about 'Therapyfortheheart.'" comment from Australia
"I enjoyed watching this video so much Mark, my 3 year old son has recently been diagnosed with ASD and videos like this give me hope and positivity for the future - thank you!" 5th talk
"Hi there from the UK! Many thanks for putting up this video as well as the other related ones you have. Im currently checking them all out and finding them very interesting. In particular, the part of this video you covered on talking about past therapy experiences with a new therapist helpful"
You seem to be a very earnest and nonthreatening therapist, Dr. Mark, and the video is very helpful." "For the first time, I understand the meaning of silence in therapy. I use to get mad at my therapist when he was silent. I felt like he was ignoring me. It made me mad. Gradually, I became more comfortable with the silence, and I can now sit for several minutes alone with my thoughts. Thanks Dr. Sehl"
"Whatever you choose will probably be interesting for me. I like to talk about awareness of your inner will and what you really appreciate. And ways to express your feelings and to be with people that understands the importance of expressing them instead of judging negatively. To see your talks makes me feel more in contact with myself and my valuations, it is a bit like hanging out with understanding people.
I have watched all except 4 and 5 so far and I think I will watch some or all again."
"An excellent view for an overview of what makes for a quality therapy session"
"I would like to thank Dr. Sehl for these wonderful talks. I am an Adjunct Professor at Rutgers Graduate School of Social Work. I have incorporated the talks into my course offered for sometime now and reaction from my students has been incredibly powerful. The gentle authenticity and basic language in which Dr. Sehl presents some of the most complicated concepts in psychoanalysis helps students connect with and develop an interest for this way of working. Thank you Dr. Sehl, please continue!" Eric Williams
"I encountered your youtube station through serendipity and it engaged me immediately. It is an eloquent and articulate guide to therapy, stimulating watchers who are interested to further investigate. I am one of those! Thank you Namaste, Stokely."
"thank you for your video and the introduction to the new film about bill w. i will buy it when it becomes available. the film with james woods and james garner was excellent, i think that was 1989...having had alcoholism in my family, i find such films and books pretty much a requirement in trying to understand the nature of alcohol addiction."
I love these videos. Im an MSW student and would like to eventually become a psychodynamic psychotherapist. What would be a good place to intern for this future goal, and should I be in analysis myself? Thanks
"After viewing two of the videos, I appreciate how you bring this material down to earth while still not sacrificing its academic nature. Blending emotionality, the human element, with a particular school of thought that is both complicated and, at times, thought of as cold and impersonal is a nice touch. Making this material available online is a great service. Psychoanalytic thought is very much alive."
“Thank you for posting your videos of "Therapy of the heart" on Youtube!
I'm going to start therapy with a psychotherapist and was a bit nervous about it. Seeing your videos convinced me of the need to go into therapy and also has removed some anxiety. It has also given me insight into what I'm looking for in a therapist.”
Comment on your video: 9th Talk (8th talk continued). "The therapist's fear and anxiety about attachment in psychotherapy Thank you for your honesty, sir. My therapist lost her ability to manage her countertransference and it caused great harm to both of us. Your honesty helps me remember the struggle she went through and hope that she will come to understand what she did and learn from it and heal. Her heart was good but she lost it. I have 2 trauma therapists now and hope to find healing from what happened. It is encouraging to hear you be honest and still be a safe provider. I hope that for her as well."