Therapy for the heart:
Dr. Sehl runs "Therapy For The Heart" a YouTube channel dedicated to developing the public's understanding of what psychotherapy is like, and extending awareness of Modern Psychoanalysis. Subscribe and comment!
Friends of Therapy for the Heart: YouTube viewer's comments: Therapists and the general public have learned from and have been inspired by these videos. Professors from Rutgers University US, Australia, and Malaysia have played the videos in class. Below are viewer's unsolicited comments:
I've been reading psychology books and blogs, trying to locate what my problems really are, which itself is a coping mechanism to distance me from facing my real world life and issues. Unfortunately I'm 31 now and all these understandings still couldn't generate the 'drive/courage for life' I'm looking for. Through your works I know you're in favor of going into therapy for sure. I'm in a country where therapy does not thrive like in US and I have an irrational belief that I couldn't find one that will get me (also therapy is still costly here). That's why I'm looking for help in videos and blogs of great therapists like you online ;) . from C.C 40th talk Why apologize? Oct. 3, 2019
reply by Dr. Sehl: Those walls are very hard to break down and it’s really amazing that you’re in a place now and you can look at things and have some understanding of them without blaming yourself. Would you mind if I use your initials or first name and last initial and put this on my you tube comments page? It helps people when they’re trying to come into therapy to read these observations. Oct. 3, 2019
"You have such a kind heart, it’s so clear you are moved by other people’s pain and you want to make a change. Your videos have had a positive impact on me. Thank you."
Response to talk 94."Our young people are harming themselves and are not heard". Laura Kidd. Feb. 18, 2029
Mark Sehl I can feel your exasperation regarding the dearth of attention giving, both in terms of government spending and, in how little attention is given, apart from in the psychotherapy room. The space and time offered is always a shock, but in a good way. Listening is a rare thing. Simple, but not always easy.
€400 million spent by our health services on drugs in Ireland (in the area of mental health ) €10 million on 'counseling'. Noreen O Donovan Feb. 2019
Thank you for speaking up against the inhumane attitudes and actions occurring in our country. I see many who care about others not speak up and look the other way and it angers me. "All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." - Edmund Burke. Priorities...great video topic. I honor your voice, advocacy and care for those who may not be able to speak up because of the dynamics of discrimination and abuse. When one is harmed or is hurting, it affects us all. I thank you for the daily efforts you make to heal the wounds in others. response to Talk 93 Our Country needs a shift in priorities. Jennifer (soulofphoenix)
Brilliant !! Thank you so much, especially for your last comments concerning that all human beings can, at some point, exhibit some maladaptive behaviors, depending on the level of stress they are experiencing in their lives... I loved to have 'survived' your videos so far !!!! 2019 smaragdino (σμαράγδινο)
Wow, that is love right there! Your ability to care for other people, to give them attention even though they are 'strangers' at first gives me hope for my self, hope in others and in this world. Thank you for showing an interest and for being you. You are reMARKable. 😉 Say hi to Charlie for me🦅 on talk 92 Sometimes we have to listen real hard to hear a whisper Ouarda E. Dec. 28, 2018
"You have a generous heart Mark. Attention (giving) is in short supply." Hello from Cork, Ireland. on talk 92 Sometimes we have to listen real hard to hear a whisper Noreen O Donovan, Dec. 28, 2019
"I'm watching the videos you've uploaded and I've come across the Youtube video...OMG!!!!. I didn't know that you had a youtube channel and much less with so many followers (now, one more :-P) ... Ay caramba! Congratulations...I loved the subject you touched on from the self-critics and the importance of building uo a new relationship on a safety environment with our patients, being compassionate and open to all those feelings....besides that you have so much enthusiasm to do so many things, not only in the professional environment, but also in the personal, exercise and all of this...That's a contagious thing" from Karemi. Batista 11/25/18
Great talk, it is really helpful for me as I've recently started with my general practice. I could actually think of scenario and go by your words.. just the 1st video I came across, will be back to cover more of them.. this is great Sir.. thank you for sharing your valuable knowledge and experience. Good wishes. Ashhmeet K. 10, 2018 from 1st Video
Hi Mark, thank you I do understand completely and feel glad that your videos will be published.
I felt a great passion to see them in print. They are so human and filled with authenticity. Sometimes I feel this is so lacking in psychoanalytic literature and retelling of experience.
I also understand Skyping in a group is a stretch unless it is a Skype group.
I will continue to follow you with much respect and thank you for your response and contributions. Patricia Munhall, LPsyA, 10/7/18
Hi Rand, that’s wonderful news that one of your colleagues heard about me in Ireland. It makes everything worthwhile. People unfamiliar to psychotherapy enjoy and are reassured by the comments section on Friends of therapy for the heart. May I post your comment up there using your name Rand. Sometimes I send the comment page out to different places like social media professionals etc. I am looking forward to our communications in the future, Mark . 9/2018
I just wanted to take a minute out to thank you for your video series on YouTube. I'm in therapy currently in the UK and my therapist is away on leave for a month. I've noticed a rapid decline in my mental stability since he has been away and your videos have been a source of great comfort to me. I find that listening to them in moments of distress has stopped a number of impulsive actions on my part.
It may seem silly to send this but I think it's right to make you aware of the positive impact you had on at least one person.
I appreciate the time you take to make these videos and look forward to the next ones you decide to upload.
reply: Laura thank you so much for your note to me and it’s not silly at all that you could take advantage of watching them to help yourself. I have a webpage link Friends of therapy for the heart where I post comments like yours. It helps people who may be considering therapy so may I post this comment with your name if that’s OK or just your initial. Names help the comments feel genuine. Are you in the US or abroad?
Thanks again, Mark . 8/28/18
Thank you for your podcast, it is very encouraging (heartening!) to listen to your talks!
I found your podcast over a year ago, when I’d just started therapy and tried to find my bearings in that setting- and was also hugely curious! (Am still )
...and also came to love the warmth and candor and openness of your talks. Really like it that you address the current state of affairs in politics. Gesine 8/28/18
Thank you very much for your videos. I appreciate your calm and kind voice. I find the videos informative and helpful.
Thank you for pointing to the podcast. I would like also to add that I am watching your videos from the Syrian Arab Republic thousands of miles away. I highly appreciate high quality informative free videos like
yours on youtube because it is very hard to get good resources on psychology here. In fact the profession counselor does not exist here as it is in the west. We mainly have psychiatrists. Talk 80, Overarainbow7 2013, 6/12/2018
Very nice talk...I am glad to hear what you said about "politics" .you know I am the one from Germany and I believe we all should care for our planet and I also trust in globalization. We all just have this one earth 2nd Talk S.F. May, 2018
Words can't describe the immediate positive impact Mark has been to me. I was first introduced to him through his “Therapy For The Heart" his YouTube channel dedicated to developing the public's understanding of what psychotherapy is like, and extending awareness of Modern Psychoanalysis.
I don’t live near Dr Sehl but when I reached out to him via email he told me to call him right away and I did and it put my issue into perspective for me and I was better able to deal with my feelings.
I’ve been seeing the same therapist for nearly 18 years and I think it’s one of the best parts of my life. She knows me, cares about me and encourage me to grow and is very patient with me. My issue is at times I feel too dependent on our sessions and her and this makes me feel uneasy. Mark listened to me and continues to check up on me and it’s so comforting to know that he is just a email or phone call away when needed. Carla G. 5/24/18
"Thank you for you heart-felt contributions to Modern Psychoanalysis and the memories of your analyst." On a most unusual relationship between patient and analyst, talk 46, Gabriele Chorney psychoanalyst, May 9th, 2018
"I watch theses videos often and each time I am so touched by the special relationship you both shared. I did watch #76... very interesting as always. I love all your videos my favorite being...
Off The Chair, The Kiss and Dr. H. Spotnitz-Dr. Gerald Lucas has a discharge of bottled up emotions. Carla Gagliotti, from talk 76, A most unusual relationship between patient and analyst. May 8, 2018
"Hello Dr. Sehl. Thank you for sharing authentic feelings in an unconventional way. Very often people who follow a “wise track” at all cost seem to forget real life and by so doing miss some unexpected enriching experiences. I am enjoying each of your thought-provoking videos. Please keep going." Laura Gran from Italy, talk 76 "a most unusual relationship between analyst and patient, May 10, 2018
HI Mark, apologies for coming back so late. I love Dingle, my plan when I finish my training is to open a practice either in Dingle or somewhere on the ring of Kerry. Ideally with the outdoors in mind which is something I am very excited about. Absolutely please feel free to copy and post any of my comments on the "Friends of therapy for the heart" viewer comment page. I love your videos and will continue to watch them as I continue in my training. Thank you so much, it really helps to hear from your perspective your understanding of the different experiences of therapy. Thank you for your reply and with much gratitude for the insight and content of your videos, hope you have a beautiful day. from Cacoon Life referring to 8th talk "Awareness of hate and mistakes help in psychotherapy April 15, 2018
Charlotte B. commented: "I listen to your podcast when I find it difficult to make sense of things. Your explanations, examples and style make it easier to introspect. It has a huge impact :)" Charlotte B. TALK 74 ASSESSING THE IMPACT OF THE VIDEOS APRIL, 2018
"What a lovely explanation of how crucial it is to look at ourselves as we try to understand and address problems like child abuse. I like the story of your supervision group, too. Margaret Whilde 69th Talk Child Abuse and the 13 children held as hostages"
reply: Exactly so if we don’t look at ourselves we tend to project the unacceptable onto others and regarding those people as enemies. Sometimes to the extent that they are killed. Thank you March, 2018
"when people with this much wisdom and experience share their knowledge then the whole world moves forward a notch" DW Lewis From Part 25th Talk "Are feelings good or bad?" March, 2018
A breath of fresh air, your wonderful tone, your manner, your philosophy and teachings. I am so glad my university recommended this site. Thank you so much for sharing such wonderful measures to help others.
Regards, L. Cole. Lindy 2/22/18
"the best psychoanalytic presentation I have seen on YouTube. appreciated."
DMA Lewis on 3rd Talk 10/20/17
Hi and so grateful to connect on this Canadian Thanksgiving! The leaves in Ontario are changing all Fall is here. I'm completing my 2nd year supervision-it has been a 7 year journey-and it will continue. . . .It's such moving work that I frequently weep thinking about the work and the vulnerability of people just wanting to be seen and to see too. It's beautifully challenging work. I do watch your videos because you do exactly this and it's to humanize the client's experience, the heart it, to help them face themselves and just by asking the right questions. Your videos are incredibly helpful to me in understanding the lifespan development and our needs and desires and how we long for primal acknowledgments: i.e. your 7am client: you must live close to see me so early? This moves me so much. I hope we can stay in touch Dr. Sehl because I'm here taking it all in. A.B. Oct. '17
"Thank you for your spontaneous, unedited talks, Dr Sehl - they are very enjoyable! Your 'out of the box' talks made me think of Pippi Longstocking - a character who would never let herself be squeezed in any box, but is neither maverick, nor rebel, but benign and yet irrepressible... I also thought of the adage that it's ok to lie to anyone but oneself. That way, introspection is imperative, and it seems to me that authentic values can be developed without trying to conform - after all, you can lie to the outer world!" Gesine, Sept. 2017
"Hi Mark. I am a Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist and am really enjoying your videos. Learning something new every time which is refreshing! Thanks for sharing." Lisa Andersen Sept. 2017
I have been doing psychotherapy for many years and now I am doing psychoanalysis as a patient and for what I have understood countertransference and transference are very important and not much thought so far. Thank you for this video, it gives a good insight on that issue. Mariteta Xilouri
Mark, I want to thank you for being such an inspiration in my life, and my life to be. I am in process of my Bachelor's Degree in Psychology. I'm 46 and before becoming a full-time student, I worked construction since before high school. My father would take me to work. I have PTSD, I am Bipolar 1 and in high school diagnosed with Dyslexia. I had my share of hurdles. So I knew a little bit about Psychology before I started college. I have people around me who have supported me through this journey. I'm a very lucky man. Watching and learning your techniques have been a big inspiration. I know you don't get paid for this time on youtube. So once again thank you for taking the time. You have helped me and I can only imagine all the people you have helped. Talk therapy, guidance, setting goals and having a good understanding of homework that a client can work on is the best medicine. Not in all cases. However, chat therapy is very strong. I've learned this in myself, my therapist, along with the right food and the proper amount of sleep. Proper thought pattern and a smile, seeking out laughter. For many helpful tactics you have given me, I wanted to just say thank you, but it turned out to be much more. I wanted you to know how much you are appreciated. May you be in good health and a long successful life. I'm looking forward to my internship and then helping others live a successful life. Thanks. David H. on 50th Talk Unexpected benefits of psychotherapy 8/16/2017
For me the relationship to my therapist is so different to all the other in my Life. In most relationships performance and commitment were very important even within the relationship to my parents. I experienced often that I have to be like other people want me to be. In therapy it is the first time in my Life that there is room for finding out who I am and what belongs to me. This is so nice and I am so grateful for this experience. The relationship to a therapist is so different but very helpful. Sandra Flindt, on talk 50, The unaccepted benefits of psychotherapy 8/17/2017
Most welcome weekly appointment. Thank you, Dr. Sehl. Therapist's room as a safe place, learning how to speak out and how to hide, how to defend yourself - the benefits of talking freely ... food for thought, for the heart, really. Have a very nice day. Thank you. Paola Grand 50th talk Aug. 16, 2017
"Joy yo be hidden," interesting take. I always assumed being hidden was a bad thing. F.W. 50th talk Aug. 16, 2017
Chemical Imbalance Theory: As always, follow the money. I'm very wary of pharmaceutical drugs for any condition, mental of physical. I know I'm stating the obvious and preaching to the choir, but I've got to vent. What a convenient theory to promote the sale of meds! And it is very compelling. It appeals to the general, non-skeptical segment of the public. An elegant explanation, with a simple and elegant solution, to a very complicated problem. If only it were true. Once a person buys into it, they can spread the word, and repeat the mantra: chemical in balance! Who can argue with them? Their minds are closed to any subtler explanation. A simple fix is good news to the masses. Don't bother to deal with problems and try and determine their meanings! Just except the fact that you have a chemical in balance! Take your meds like a good boy or girl and be rewarded by the gold star you receive for being a compliant patient.
John Paradise, 49th Talk Are we an Over prescribing Nation, August 8/ 2017
"that was so illuminating dr sehl. i sabotaged my college education and i realize now why i did it. you are a beautiful person keep up your great work. just to allay any concern you may have, i see a psychotherapist weekly, which is tremendously helpfull
Robby Sees comment on Talk 23 On being Imperfect 7/31/17
I can understand how denial of one's body functions could be a means of denying death, but how—it what manner and by what means—does one deny one's body functions. How is denial of one's body functions manifested? And what bodily functions are typically denied? John Paradise 7/13/07 46th talk Death Anxiety Fear
1 Mark Sehl3 days ago
Good question. Manifested by a feeling of disgust, embarrassment. Bowel movements, farting, burping and also illness that brings attention to one's mortality. May I put this on my viewer comment page with your name or initials?
Hi Dr. Sehl. Liked this one too. Can't wait to watch video 48. Love your calm and profound way of discussing very important problems in everybody's lives. Thank you. Laura Gran 7/13/17
Dear Dr. Sehl, Recently I have been watching your videos of the series "What Makes for a Good Psychotherapy". I have found them most interesting and I wish to let you know my appreciation for your (apparently) simple and spontaneous way of discussing difficult and complex aspects of human suffering and interaction. I have undergone psychotherapy with an competent and emphatic psychoanalyst of the Freudian School - although I would rather define him as a modern psychoanalyst, in line with your definition of the term. The therapy has been going on for a few years - the time I needed to "see" aspects of myself which I would never had understood, had they simply been "explained" to me. Why am I writing to you, you may wonder? Because I wish you to know that your videos have helped me understand the extent to which the analyst is involved in his/her relationship with the patient/client and in the "learning" process on both sides. And how difficult it must be to maintain a balance between empathy and a correct "distance" from the patient. Your way of expressing your own thoughts and feelings is very touching and useful to understand what psychotherapy is all about. So my message to you is the following: THANK YOU! Laura Gran from Trieste - Italy Former Conference Interpreter for the European Institutions and Professor of Simultaneous Interpretation at the Faculty of Translation and Interpretation at the University of Trieste. Now a retired elderly lady Laura Gran
I really like your calm lucidity. I'm very familiar with modern Jungian analysis and have benefited greatly but it is helpful to hear an alternative, your modern Freudian perspective that seems supportive and gently revealing of truth.
J.K. June, 2017 2nd talk
"Thank you. I always love what you have to say and how you say it so clearly and compassionately." Norm Babbitt, on 43rd talk, June 2017
"Phenomenal, thanks for sharing this Dr. Sehl." Heather Flood on 37th talk, a Small Miracle, May 2017
Love your new video! Especially your point about how the negative self-talk can be a way of being with those loved ones who used to speak to us like that. Wow - never saw it like that. From Lisa D. April 25, video talk 35
Dear Mark, today I read many of the comments from people that watched your talks and listened to talk number 34. I learned that I know so little about the subject of connection between physical pain and emotional suffering. The comments show how important and far reaching is your healing work. And....i am the only person that address you as "Mark" and not Dr. Sehl...Thank you and I will continue to listen...From Ruthie A-B April 24th, 2017
Thanks for all your help and for posting your videos, they are so awesome. I love how you call them therapy for the heart. There is such a need for that! :)
A friend actually lead me to your videos, she did that, because what you were saying was matching what I was sharing with her. :) It was so good to watch your videos and realize that what I was feeling and thinking wasn't out to lunch.
From H. April 2017
Another profound and educational video. Thanks for sharing. I'm looking forward to listening to your podcast.
Re: 33rd talk Grambi April 10
Mark, I've been watching the video diaries of you and Gerry for some time now but have been reluctant to comment because I didn't want to intrude on sacred space. However, after watching this one I am compelled to share my feelings. The interactions you've shared with Gerry over time have been some of the most beautiful and tender acts of love I have ever seen. Your devotion to Gerry and your commitment to the bond you have established is an amazing example of the capacity of the human heart to love another and provide healing, especially difficult conditions. Thank you for allowing us the opportunity to participate in your relationship with Gerry through these very personal videos. You've provided us with an inspiring view of how love is the essential element of the well lived life, which you continue to give to Gerry. I'm sure you would say that this is reciprocal. I love that in his narrative Gerry continues to refer to his relationship with you and wonders how you should be working through things together. Beautiful Mark, absolutely beautiful. Dr. Eric Wiliams
Very helpful as I will be studying BA in Integrative psychotherapy. I will continue to watch your videos. Thank you Dr. Hyman YouTube subscriber wonderon response to 3rd talk March 2017
Tillie the cat commented on a video on YouTube.
Glad I found your videos Dr Mark, you do answer many questions about how psychotherapy works. I'll discuss the expression of anger with my therapist next time...I'm a big talker and tend to over analyse and disect things that I feel and do however, I can't see myself expressing anger towards my therapist. My anxiety is so bad (probably due to years of abuse started in infancy) that I barely leave home knowing that I intend on doing a degree which entails to speak two languages, can't get to work my spanish. Grrrrr!!! ;) 32nd Talk On not expressing my feelings
March 17, 2017
Mark's response: I am glad you found me also. Thank you for your comment. What I said in the video about expressing anger should not be generalized and happens only when the situation between pt. and therapist is ready for that. Don't expect that. It will come if the time is right. And does not have to come to have successful therapy. Remember that. Not all therapists think like me. Good luck. Can I post your comment with your name or initials on my YouTube viewer comment page?
Mark, your hiatus doesn't mean anything, glad you're back. Regarding the approach of modern psychoanalysis toward self-loathing, is the main therapeutic action the gradual expression of the anger--anger turned toward the self and resulting in depression--towards the correct person/object who the anger was directed against? havadatequila March 11, 2017 Talk 31, On not expressing feelings
Mark's response it's better that the anger is gradually turned towards the therapist when the patient is ready in small doses. The therapist will not retaliate, making it a safe situation for the person to be authentic. Eventually the feelings may or may not be directed at the original object. 3/11/17
I like your videos, they are very insightful! :)
Dr. Blue on 10th talk treatment of alcoholism March 2017
Important stuff. Thanks for sharing this video. I'm looking forward to learning more about this topic.
Grambi March on talk 31` On not expressing your feelings
So glad these videos are back! You have really helped me to figure out what I wanted out of the therapy experience. I struggled for a long time to find a therapist who fit with me and met my needs. I have learned so much from you. I have sorta become a therapy nerd! Who knows maybe I'll be a therapist one day. Thanks for doing this channel. It has really meant a lot to me.
Catie P. On Not Following Your Dreams, 30th Talk March ‘17
Great talk Mark! On Not Following Your Dreams, 30th Talk March ‘17
Thank you Mark for sharing such an important topic. Without judgement we are all able to investigate our inner longings to the fullest. Not only judgement from others at a young age but from ourselves as we journey through our lives. it was great to see the face and hear the voice behind the wonderful artwork you share with us occasionally. Thank you! Lola King SCM-CCC, CGRS,
This made my day! I have so missed your presence, via the warm, informative and helpful talks. Please know you are admired and that provide comfort by giving us all your knowledge and views.
Re: talk 30 On not following your dreams Kathleen Stetler 2/28/2017
Thank you Mark for this video. Please may I have your permission to post it (and subsequent ones) to my psychotherapy Facebook page? I think the more information clients and potential clients have about therapy and what they can expect, the better. It may help to lessen the shame that stops us all from showing our real selves and thus having real contact. :) x Re: 1st Talk What makes for a good psychotherapy session and why 2/28/2017 Liz Leech
This video was very informative, it wasn't authoritative, it was a gentle approach that grabbed the attention.
greenfaceman Feb. 2017
Dear Dr. Sehl,
I am writing this e-mail simply to say “thank you” for the videos you have shared on youtube.
I recently started therapy due to having difficulty to fall asleep. Curiosity about therapy brought me to your youtube channel. I appreciate how you explain and show simple human emotions, which in fact can often be so difficult to understand. I admire the great friendship you had with Dr. Lucas. Thank you for sharing that! I wish it had more views. Especially I like video "Dr. Lucas and Mark Sehl walk the streets, Oct. 10, ’14”. I like how a simple 5min walk can contain so much emotion. I am grateful for technology to be able to see these videos made on the other side of the world.
I am grateful for people like you for sharing such videos.
Ieva from Latvia 2/10/2017 Re: the videos with Dr. Gerry Lucas
Hello Dr. Sehl, I am clinical psych student getting ready to start internship in the fall. I have very much enjoyed watching your videos. I am wondering if you would consider making a video about working with erotic transference in psychotherapy? This is a seldom-addressed topic in training even though it is a fairly common occurrence, and can be challenging for therapists. Danielle, 7/20016
Hello, I am a scientist, specifically, toxicologist in Mexico. I am under psychotherapy right now and I have seen some of your videos on youtube and I find them very useful. As a patient, it is important to understand a bit more about the theory of psychotherapy and how it works. Thank you for your videos!
Regards, Irasema. I. C. L. 6/2016
Coming back to these after a long break - very informative,and a great learning tool. Thanks so much for giving your time and knowledge. Two Thumbs Up! Mark Kelly, on Video 1, May 23, 2016
I very much appreciate your authenticity and genuineness. I think I can only strive to approximate what you demonstrated here. Quite the statement about the vicissitudes of becoming and being human. Thank you! As an aside, do you know much about who was contemptuous towards your father? seanmcg1122 commented on a video on YouTube. May 2, 2016 response to 21st Talk- i wrote back that I did not know who was contemptuous
I have been doing psychotherapy for many years and now I am doing psychoanalysis as a patient and for what I have understood countertransference and transference are very important and not much thought so far. Thank you for this video, it gives a good insight on that issue. 4/1016 Marieta Xilour
Hi. I have just found your page. I am a second year student in humanistic psychotherapy and I have found how you approach this first session very useful. I took a lot from your tone, calmness and how you communicate what you do. I really appreciate the information. Thank you Anne-Kirsten MacLachlan Talk 1, April 30, 2016
Wow, this video series has really encouraged me to try therapy and to follow your references in psychoanalysis, even though I have no background in the area. Very engaging, great teaching. . . Just found a psychoanalyst in my area who is willing to see me. Something I wouldn't have considered before watching your videos. Sofia Machado Dibble March 8 and 10, 2016 15th talk
Video farewell to Dr. Lucas
I am extremely sorry for your loss. I may not know you and Gerry personally but through your videos it was apparent that you two carried a strong, and powerful relationship. I applaud Gerry for all of his great accomplishments. And yourself, for being with him every step of the way. You are truly a great person. This video must have taken a lot ofcourage, so thank you for informing us. May Gerry rest in peace. courage, so thank you for informing us. May Gerry rest in peace. Nathalie Tinoco
"Thank you, Dr. Sehl. This is very helpful and a wonderful refresher. I particularly appreciate the distinction you made between psychoanalysis and cognitive behavioral therapy, the notion of 'joining' with the patient's defenses, and reminders about the importance of talking about and working with counter-transference feelings in supervision. Again, thanks!" Jennifer Sandoval, PhD 2nd talk Feb. 22, 2016
"This is the kind of video I was looking for. You are giving the basic elements of what psychotherapy is and the reasons for the emotional and mental problems people have. I'm looking forward to seeing all of them. It's so important to understand ourselves. I am enjoying them a little at a time and profiting from your understanding of the human heart." comment on Second Talk TM 2/15/16
I am 2 years into my advanced diploma in psychotheraputic counseling and you my friend have taught me so much in this short video. Thank you Andrew Murray on 2nd Talk Jan. 2016
Am really liking the videos please keep them coming. Rebecca
wish you practiced in the uk!! Jan 7. 2016
Another great video - thank you Mark. I hadn't heard of the term 'transference resistance' before, so your explanation was very helpful and welcome. I have to admit to feeling under pressure to answer when a client asks me a personal question but now realize that I am missing an opportunity to gain a valuable insight into my client by answering immediately. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. :) Liz Leech on 2nd talk 12/21/15
"Your videos really explain a complicated theorist's work in a down to earth way. Nice to meet you!' comment by R Kiki Weingarten about the work of Dr. Hyman Spotnitz 12/15/15
"It's really the guard's responsibility to own their own sadistic impulses. Welcome Aquarius" Chris Caldwell commented on the 21st Video 12.7.15
"This was really interesting. I´m a psychologist and I´m starting out as a body-oriented psychotherapist and my patient has OCD and has a great need to talk, so I just let him and I try to be mindful of not saying something just to say something, because its true, I´m still getting to know him." Veronica Lopez, on Talk 1 Nov. '15
Mariteta Xilouri 40 minutes ago · LINKED COMMENT
I have been doing psychotherapy for many years and now I am doing psychoanalysis as a patient and for what I have understood, countertransference and transference are very important and not much thought of so far. Thank you for this video, it gives a good insight on that issue. 9/17/15
Paulette Sherman 10 hours ago · LINKED COMMENT
"Hi Mark, great video. I love the Winnicott quote too. It's important to educate people about therapy and this video was very helpful." in response to Talk 1 -8/10/15
"Great info. I'd love to hear more about the roots of mental distress and how they manifest into self-destructive thoughts (subconscious and conscious) and behaviors. It's very helpful to listen to your dialogical approach of discussing these ideas. It feels much more genuine and engaging than a speech or a lecture. Keep it up!" Brad Eitner, June 23, 15
What a lovely tribute to Dr. Lucas and those who were close to him. Beautifully said Dr. Sehl. You provided Dr. Lucas with a great deal of comfort and joy at a time when he was very vulnerable. You had a very special relationship. Here's to Gerry! Chantel M. 37th Talk, Farewell to Dr. Lucas and Gerry and Mark's day
"Your teachings are valuable to anyone involved in psychotherapy whether as therapists, patients or those with an interest in the topic. Delivered with heart as always. Keep them coming." Chantel M. 28th talk "Difficult Patient or Difficult Therapist", June 23, 15
Thank you for the clear examples on transference, transference resistance and countertransference.
Sloan Benson on 2nd Talk., May, 2015
Congratulations and thank you for sharing your videos. It was a very good way to reflect upon my work as a psychotherapist, never losing the sight that we are first of all vulnerable individuals. I will continue to follow your videos with great interest! Rita Gasper 5/5/15 2nd Talk
"I know i should always be my best, but at the same time I like the idea of accepting my imperfections ... After all this is me!" (this was in response to the talk "Visit with Dr. Lucas" published April 17th, 2015 where I posted a viewer's comments on perfection) . . ." By the way, as a person who is keen on self improvement i recently came across and started seeing your most valuable "Talk on Psychotherapy" series and found it beneficial to follow this channel... and I'm so glad that now I am communicating with you ... best wishes for you Dr." Majid Najafi, April 20, 2015
"It is very difficult to find a suitable and good experienced psychotherapist. Perhaps what you are doing will help raise the bar.
Dr Sehl, is this your consulting room we can see in the background?" Diane S. April 11, 2015 response to the 25th talk part 2- Are Feelings Good or Bad
Hello Mark--I have enjoyed your psychotherapy videos a great deal. I trained as a psychotherapist in the 90's but stopped short of internship so never finished my Ph.D. Instead we adopted a baby born in China, and I've been mothering since that time. Two years ago I began a psychoanalytic therapy relationship due to depression. I have come to realize that at age 64 the desire to be an analyst has been re-awakened. Not sure where my path is yet, but I have been so touched by your love and care for Dr. Gerry Lucas. In a way that I do not yet understand, those videos have tugged me forward inwardly to consider working as a therapist again. So I am writing you to say hello, and I like you sharing the real you very much. Finding the real you day by day is a treasure for yourself and everyone else, too. Keep on going. Sincerely, G. W." 4/1/15
"I found listening to this helpful. It reminded me of the benefits I experienced in therapy as a patient in the past. Thank you." Robert Ede Cooper March 22, 2015 2nd Talk What Makes for a Good Therapy Session
"Dr. Sehl Thank you for sharing. I hope you make more longer videos, because I just love your beautiful and comforting voice, and sincere talking. I listen to you when I do my work and chores. I like you and look forward to seeing more of your wonderful therapy videos." Mary from Canada, March 20, '15 - comment on the 18th talk-"On Choosing a Therapist"
Great line, "I'm not like TED talks, I'm sorry." Your "realness" is inspiring" Ginger re: 25th talk March 10, 2015
"I live in Finland and I'm a native Finnish. I really like your talk-videos on Youtube. Watching your videos helped me to increase my understanding of my relationships. Not only the ones experienced as an adult, but as a child." Juha M. March 3,'15
"Wise words Dr. Sehl. Enjoyed your delivery also." Chantel M. 25th talk part 2 Feb. 20, 2015
"Authentic as usual Dr. Sehl. You continue to show us how to be a truly human therapist. Very nice piece on "Good or Bad Feelings". Eric Williams 25th talk part 2 March 1, 2015
Rebecca Long said I could quote her. She wrote that like twelve year old Rebecca (yes coincidentally they have the same name) listening to the psychotherapy videos helped her also and she wanted to be a therapist. . . "that's two Rebecca's so far." R. Long read the tweet "The fetus can be severely affected by couples fighting during pregnancy" talk 25 From Rebecca's tweet @RebeccaLong1986 on Feb. 20, 2015.
Just listening to your videos I find helpful, comforting, encouraging and pointing me in a constructive direction for finding the right therapy and therapist. You very clearly and definitely exemplify compassion and equanimity and a welcoming spirit. I like how you present yourself as a caring human being first, and a therapist, second. I have a deep respect for Freud and his radical contribution to understanding our humanity, our difficulties, challenges and what it means to look with honesty and caring upon ourselves. Norm Babbitt June, 2015
"How are you? Just a quick thank you from Vienna, Austria for your great videos. I am currently finishing writing a book about my (good) experience with psychotherapy and the many unforeseen benefits. Watching your videos has been a great stimulus and made me include some personal stories I would have forgotten to include. You seem very genuine and seem to have worked a lot on yourself. It s nice to see that!"
Andreas K. Feb. 18, 2015
Rebecca who is 12 years old wrote me that after listening to my therapy videos she wanted to be a therapist. That was a confirming sweet message that the videos are connecting with even young people and helping them see psychotherapy as as possible career choice. 1/2015
"Really enjoying your videos on your channel 'therapy for the heart.' I am a fifth year transpersonal intergrative therapy student. I am finding your talks useful in my work with my own clients, so thank you for that! I live and practice in the Uk." Laina Cheek Jan. 2015
"I really like how you begin this talk speaking about how we are all alike and that others with psychological problems are not essentially different than any of us. We all have similar fears and resistances, simply as human beings. Thank you, again, for these video talks. "
John Babbitt, reaction to talk 7 11/20/14
"Thank you. Just listening to your videos I find helpful, comforting, encouraging and pointing me in a constructive direction for finding the right therapy and therapist. You very clearly and definitely exemplify compassion and equanimity and a welcoming spirit. I like how you present yourself as a caring human being first, and a therapist, second. I have a deep respect for Freud and his radical contribution to understanding our humanity, our difficulties, challenges and what it means to look with honesty and caring upon ourselves."
John Babbitt, reaction to talk 2, 11/19/14
"I have been watching your videos for a while now and I would like to thank you for sharing them! I find them very interesting and useful. I especially appreciate that you give personal examples which raises your credibility!" Oct. 2014
"Hello Mr. Sehl I am a psychotherapy trainee and I have just watched your first video which I found really helpful as it brought together all of my own experience and the theory that I have been learning into a really practical, calm, talk of what its really all about." Calvin Hume Somerset England Oct. 9, ‘14
"Dr. Sehl, thank you so much for sharing your kindness and your heart with us. I have found myself very comforted by watching your videos. I appreciate you very much." 6/5/14 Heidi Jones re: 24th talk
"Thank you so very much for making all these videos. I have been studying psychology for a few years, something my family has advised against since I started. I've been pulled back and forth, but after watching so many of your videos and doing my own research I have found that this is what I want to do with my life. My whole life revolves around studying the human mind, and so I really appreciate you making these videos.Thank you!" Jayde Logan
"Dear Dr Sehl, I am a student counselor based in Dublin and find your videos on intervention really useful." Comments on the 6th talk- Silence as an Intervention
"Thanks for your video. You described well the qualities of a sensitive therapist, as well as what the ultimate goal of therapy is." Jane Fry 1st Talk
"Hi, Dr Sehl. I'm a therapist from Iran and I'm watching your videos. They are really helpful for me and I like your approach and thank you very much indeed." Zara Aghayan
“Hello mark! I'm a masters of counseling student from Australia and stumbled across your vid tonight. I really got a lot out of this video.” Elizabeth Wei 8th Talk
"Thank you, the talk was very helpful and informative. thank you for reminding us to be human with the people we serve." Third Talk, Antonio Rivera
"Really enjoyed this one! You have a very calming, caring manner. Nice work."
Third talk Ann Whelan April 17, '14
"Dear Mark Sehl,
Thank you for your generosity in putting up your videos on psychotherapy. I am taking a course in Psychology and thinking about studying psychotherapy afterwards. I am very inspired by and appreciative of your work. Wishing you a happy continuation." Kindest Regards, Cassy 1/12/14
"I've seen a few of your videos, and I like the way you think.
A lot of the times, therapists are patronizing because they believe they are the expert and you are "sick". They treat clients like bad children, and not like equal human beings.
I know I am not sick. I am a smart, talented, young woman. I just hurt a lot, because of my early experiences. But therapists don't understand that. They are in a rush to feel competent at what they do (understandably so). And if I don't respond the way they want me to, they reject me.
I wish I could find someone like you, anyone really, therapist or not, someone who is willing to listen." Virtualmint 1/13/14
"I came across your videos while searching for information about Hyman Spotnitz. I was introduced to his ideas by a psychologist I met at a party in NYC earlier this year. Your videos are very helpful and I like your approach and manner--very genuine, unpretentious and knowledgeable." Thank you for posting them! Richard Patik 6th talk December, 2013
"Dear Dr. Sehl,
I was searching the web for examples of therapy sessions and found your youtube videos. Thank you for posting them! I really enjoyed watching, and I have learned a great deal from them." December, 2012
"Firstly, I just wanted to let you know that I find your youtube videos incredibly informative and comforting. Your perspective on therapy is very compassionate and lovely to hear." Nov. 22, 2013
"Just finished Dr. Scharff's book about projective and introjective Id. This video was helpful in understanding those concepts." talk 21
"This video really hit home. My therapist commented that my anxiety toward work was a projection of my own fear of rejection. I feared rejection immensely and was sure that others were rejecting me outright (which was not true). When you say that we do to ourselves what was done to us, I couldn't agree more. I have realized in therapy that my own critical inner voice was born in childhood. I am very unkind to myself. Hard to believe how timely this particular video is for me! Thank you!" talk 21
"You are a very caring therapist and person and your knowledge helps me understand my role in psychiatry. I like Winnicott also!" 3rd talk
"Started psychodynamic therapy last year-very different from former CBT. These videos are very helpful to understanding what's happening to me. Thank you." talk 1
"Incredible, moving video. I really appreciate and am inspired by your honesty about what you did and what you were experiencing in the sessions. Poignant "necessary entanglements." Thank you for this video." talks 8 & 9
"Thank you for these great education videos. I loved your video on the hate in counter-transference. I'm actually reading Winnicott's paper on this topic and your case presentation complimented this paper very well."
"Thanks for the videos. I am graduating in a month with a psych major and plan to be a therapist so this is the stuff I can't wait to learn about! Your understanding of narcissism is very enlightening. I totally understand how that could be a shield. Thanks again!"
"I'm a psychotherapy student here in NZ and really enjoyed your authenticity and lovely genuine nature, I took a lot from this video, thanks." from a student in New Zealand
"I am studying a masters in counseling psychology in Australia and have found your posts very helpful, informative and interesting to listen to."
"Greetings, I am a future student of psychoanalysis. You're doing a great job by creating these videos, they really helped me understand what working with people really is like. Keep it up!"
"Our world needs to remember what psychotherapy is, how it works and how it can help. Relationship and trust are so vital to emotional healing! Thank you for this conversation."
"Sorry, pressed the send button by mistake. I also studied at a psychoanalytic institute in Boston for a bit as well. I like Spotnitz because he has such a "can do" attitude about the treatment of schizophrenia. Also, I like his directives about what to do in therapy. So much psychoanalysis seems to be about conceptualizing the inner world leaving new therapists wondering what to do in the sessions."
" Thank you for your video's, I find them very interesting. I am a Dutch psychologist and have stumbled upon your video's by accident. You come across as very genuine and accepting."
You are truly a precious gem and an example for all mental health care professionals! You give us hope that there are good therapists and that it is possible for people to become them still. I hope many, many, people see your videos and learn the invaluable lessons you teach :D!"
"I am really enjoying the program, I am learning a lot and suddenly undergrad is starting to make sense :)
Our amazing 'Theories of counseling' lecturer Dr Pieter Rossouw showed the class your first posts and that's how I heard about 'Therapyfortheheart.'" comment from Australia
"I enjoyed watching this video so much Mark, my 3 year old son has recently been diagnosed with ASD and videos like this give me hope and positivity for the future - thank you!" 5th talk
"Hi there from the UK! Many thanks for putting up this video as well as the other related ones you have. Im currently checking them all out and finding them very interesting. In particular, the part of this video you covered on talking about past therapy experiences with a new therapist helpful"
You seem to be a very earnest and nonthreatening therapist, Dr. Mark, and the video is very helpful." "For the first time, I understand the meaning of silence in therapy. I use to get mad at my therapist when he was silent. I felt like he was ignoring me. It made me mad. Gradually, I became more comfortable with the silence, and I can now sit for several minutes alone with my thoughts. Thanks Dr. Sehl"
"Whatever you choose will probably be interesting for me. I like to talk about awareness of your inner will and what you really appreciate. And ways to express your feelings and to be with people that understands the importance of expressing them instead of judging negatively. To see your talks makes me feel more in contact with myself and my valuations, it is a bit like hanging out with understanding people.
I have watched all except 4 and 5 so far and I think I will watch some or all again."
"An excellent view for an overview of what makes for a quality therapy session"
"I would like to thank Dr. Sehl for these wonderful talks. I am an Adjunct Professor at Rutgers Graduate School of Social Work. I have incorporated the talks into my course offered for sometime now and reaction from my students has been incredibly powerful. The gentle authenticity and basic language in which Dr. Sehl presents some of the most complicated concepts in psychoanalysis helps students connect with and develop an interest for this way of working. Thank you Dr. Sehl, please continue!" Eric Williams
"I encountered your youtube station through serendipity and it engaged me immediately. It is an eloquent and articulate guide to therapy, stimulating watchers who are interested to further investigate. I am one of those! Thank you Namaste, Stokely."
"thank you for your video and the introduction to the new film about bill w. i will buy it when it becomes available. the film with james woods and james garner was excellent, i think that was 1989...having had alcoholism in my family, i find such films and books pretty much a requirement in trying to understand the nature of alcohol addiction."
I love these videos. Im an MSW student and would like to eventually become a psychodynamic psychotherapist. What would be a good place to intern for this future goal, and should I be in analysis myself? Thanks
"After viewing two of the videos, I appreciate how you bring this material down to earth while still not sacrificing its academic nature. Blending emotionality, the human element, with a particular school of thought that is both complicated and, at times, thought of as cold and impersonal is a nice touch. Making this material available online is a great service. Psychoanalytic thought is very much alive."
“Thank you for posting your videos of "Therapy of the heart" on Youtube!
I'm going to start therapy with a psychotherapist and was a bit nervous about it. Seeing your videos convinced me of the need to go into therapy and also has removed some anxiety. It has also given me insight into what I'm looking for in a therapist.”
Comment on your video: 9th Talk (8th talk continued). "The therapist's fear and anxiety about attachment in psychotherapy Thank you for your honesty, sir. My therapist lost her ability to manage her countertransference and it caused great harm to both of us. Your honesty helps me remember the struggle she went through and hope that she will come to understand what she did and learn from it and heal. Her heart was good but she lost it. I have 2 trauma therapists now and hope to find healing from what happened. It is encouraging to hear you be honest and still be a safe provider. I hope that for her as well."
Ashhmeet Kaur1 day ago
Great talk, it is really helpful for me as I've recently started with my general practice.. I could actually think of scenario and go by your words.. just the 1st video I came across, will be back to cover more of them.. this is great Sir.. thank you for sharing your valuable knowledge and experience. Good wishes.Ashhmeet Kaur1 day ago
Great talk, it is really helpful for me as I've recently started with my general practice.. I could actually think of scenario and go by your words.. just the 1st video I came across, will be back to cover more of them.. this is great Sir.. thank you for sharing your valuable knowledge and experience. Good wishes.