"the best psychoanalytic presentation I have seen on YouTube. appreciated."
DMA Lewis on 3rd Talk 10/20/17
Hi and so grateful to connect on this Canadian Thanksgiving! The leaves in Ontario are changing all Fall is here. I'm completing my 2nd year supervision-it has been a 7 year journey-and it will continue. . . .It's such moving work that I frequently weep thinking about the work and the vulnerability of people just wanting to be seen and to see too. It's beautifully challenging work. I do watch your videos because you do exactly this and it's to humanize the client's experience, the heart it, to help them face themselves and just by asking the right questions. Your videos are incredibly helpful to me in understanding the lifespan development and our needs and desires and how we long for primal acknowledgments: i.e. your 7am client: you must live close to see me so early? This moves me so much. I hope we can stay in touch Dr. Sehl because I'm here taking it all in. A.B. Oct. '17
"Thank you for your spontaneous, unedited talks, Dr Sehl - they are very enjoyable! Your 'out of the box' talks made me think of Pippi Longstocking - a character who would never let herself be squeezed in any box, but is neither maverick, nor rebel, but benign and yet irrepressible... I also thought of the adage that it's ok to lie to anyone but oneself. That way, introspection is imperative, and it seems to me that authentic values can be developed without trying to conform - after all, you can lie to the outer world!" Gesine, Sept. 2017
"Hi Mark. I am a Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist and am really enjoying your videos. Learning something new every time which is refreshing! Thanks for sharing." Lisa Andersen Sept. 2017
I have been doing psychotherapy for many years and now I am doing psychoanalysis as a patient and for what I have understood countertransference and transference are very important and not much thought so far. Thank you for this video, it gives a good insight on that issue. Mariteta Xilouri
Mark, I want to thank you for being such an inspiration in my life, and my life to be. I am in process of my Bachelor's Degree in Psychology. I'm 46 and before becoming a full-time student, I worked construction since before high school. My father would take me to work. I have PTSD, I am Bipolar 1 and in high school diagnosed with Dyslexia. I had my share of hurdles. So I knew a little bit about Psychology before I started college. I have people around me who have supported me through this journey. I'm a very lucky man. Watching and learning your techniques have been a big inspiration. I know you don't get paid for this time on youtube. So once again thank you for taking the time. You have helped me and I can only imagine all the people you have helped. Talk therapy, guidance, setting goals and having a good understanding of homework that a client can work on is the best medicine. Not in all cases. However, chat therapy is very strong. I've learned this in myself, my therapist, along with the right food and the proper amount of sleep. Proper thought pattern and a smile, seeking out laughter. For many helpful tactics you have given me, I wanted to just say thank you, but it turned out to be much more. I wanted you to know how much you are appreciated. May you be in good health and a long successful life. I'm looking forward to my internship and then helping others live a successful life. Thanks. David H. on 50th Talk Unexpected benefits of psychotherapy 8/16/2017
For me the relationship to my therapist is so different to all the other in my Life. In most relationships performance and commitment were very important even within the relationship to my parents. I experienced often that I have to be like other people want me to be. In therapy it is the first time in my Life that there is room for finding out who I am and what belongs to me. This is so nice and I am so grateful for this experience. The relationship to a therapist is so different but very helpful. Sandra Flindt, on talk 50, The unaccepted benefits of psychotherapy 8/17/2017
Most welcome weekly appointment. Thank you, Dr. Sehl. Therapist's room as a safe place, learning how to speak out and how to hide, how to defend yourself - the benefits of talking freely ... food for thought, for the heart, really. Have a very nice day. Thank you. Paola Grand 50th talk Aug. 16, 2017
"Joy yo be hidden," interesting take. I always assumed being hidden was a bad thing. F.W. 50th talk Aug. 16, 2017
Chemical Imbalance Theory: As always, follow the money. I'm very wary of pharmaceutical drugs for any condition, mental of physical. I know I'm stating the obvious and preaching to the choir, but I've got to vent. What a convenient theory to promote the sale of meds! And it is very compelling. It appeals to the general, non-skeptical segment of the public. An elegant explanation, with a simple and elegant solution, to a very complicated problem. If only it were true. Once a person buys into it, they can spread the word, and repeat the mantra: chemical in balance! Who can argue with them? Their minds are closed to any subtler explanation. A simple fix is good news to the masses. Don't bother to deal with problems and try and determine their meanings! Just except the fact that you have a chemical in balance! Take your meds like a good boy or girl and be rewarded by the gold star you receive for being a compliant patient.
John Paradise, 49th Talk Are we an Over prescribing Nation, August 8/ 2017
"that was so illuminating dr sehl. i sabotaged my college education and i realize now why i did it. you are a beautiful person keep up your great work. just to allay any concern you may have, i see a psychotherapist weekly, which is tremendously helpfull
Robby Sees comment on Talk 23 On being Imperfect 7/31/17
I can understand how denial of one's body functions could be a means of denying death, but how—it what manner and by what means—does one deny one's body functions. How is denial of one's body functions manifested? And what bodily functions are typically denied? John Paradise 7/13/07 46th talk Death Anxiety Fear
1 Mark Sehl3 days ago
Good question. Manifested by a feeling of disgust, embarrassment. Bowel movements, farting, burping and also illness that brings attention to one's mortality. May I put this on my viewer comment page with your name or initials?
Hi Dr. Sehl. Liked this one too. Can't wait to watch video 48. Love your calm and profound way of discussing very important problems in everybody's lives. Thank you. Laura Gran 7/13/17
Dear Dr. Sehl, Recently I have been watching your videos of the series "What Makes for a Good Psychotherapy". I have found them most interesting and I wish to let you know my appreciation for your (apparently) simple and spontaneous way of discussing difficult and complex aspects of human suffering and interaction. I have undergone psychotherapy with an competent and emphatic psychoanalyst of the Freudian School - although I would rather define him as a modern psychoanalyst, in line with your definition of the term. The therapy has been going on for a few years - the time I needed to "see" aspects of myself which I would never had understood, had they simply been "explained" to me. Why am I writing to you, you may wonder? Because I wish you to know that your videos have helped me understand the extent to which the analyst is involved in his/her relationship with the patient/client and in the "learning" process on both sides. And how difficult it must be to maintain a balance between empathy and a correct "distance" from the patient. Your way of expressing your own thoughts and feelings is very touching and useful to understand what psychotherapy is all about. So my message to you is the following: THANK YOU! Laura Gran from Trieste - Italy Former Conference Interpreter for the European Institutions and Professor of Simultaneous Interpretation at the Faculty of Translation and Interpretation at the University of Trieste. Now a retired elderly lady Laura Gran
I really like your calm lucidity. I'm very familiar with modern Jungian analysis and have benefited greatly but it is helpful to hear an alternative, your modern Freudian perspective that seems supportive and gently revealing of truth.
J.K. June, 2017 2nd talk
"Thank you. I always love what you have to say and how you say it so clearly and compassionately." Norm Babbitt, on 43rd talk, June 2017
"Phenomenal, thanks for sharing this Dr. Sehl." Heather Flood on 37th talk, a Small Miracle, May 2017
Love your new video! Especially your point about how the negative self-talk can be a way of being with those loved ones who used to speak to us like that. Wow - never saw it like that. From Lisa D. April 25, video talk 35
Dear Mark, today I read many of the comments from people that watched your talks and listened to talk number 34. I learned that I know so little about the subject of connection between physical pain and emotional suffering. The comments show how important and far reaching is your healing work. And....i am the only person that address you as "Mark" and not Dr. Sehl...Thank you and I will continue to listen...From Ruthie A-B April 24th, 2017
Thanks for all your help and for posting your videos, they are so awesome. I love how you call them therapy for the heart. There is such a need for that! :)
A friend actually lead me to your videos, she did that, because what you were saying was matching what I was sharing with her. :) It was so good to watch your videos and realize that what I was feeling and thinking wasn't out to lunch.
From H. April 2017
Another profound and educational video. Thanks for sharing. I'm looking forward to listening to your podcast.
Re: 33rd talk Grambi April 10
Mark, I've been watching the video diaries of you and Gerry for some time now but have been reluctant to comment because I didn't want to intrude on sacred space. However, after watching this one I am compelled to share my feelings. The interactions you've shared with Gerry over time have been some of the most beautiful and tender acts of love I have ever seen. Your devotion to Gerry and your commitment to the bond you have established is an amazing example of the capacity of the human heart to love another and provide healing, especially difficult conditions. Thank you for allowing us the opportunity to participate in your relationship with Gerry through these very personal videos. You've provided us with an inspiring view of how love is the essential element of the well lived life, which you continue to give to Gerry. I'm sure you would say that this is reciprocal. I love that in his narrative Gerry continues to refer to his relationship with you and wonders how you should be working through things together. Beautiful Mark, absolutely beautiful. Dr. Eric Wiliams
Very helpful as I will be studying BA in Integrative psychotherapy. I will continue to watch your videos. Thank you Dr. Hyman YouTube subscriber wonderon response to 3rd talk March 2017
Tillie the cat commented on a video on YouTube.
Glad I found your videos Dr Mark, you do answer many questions about how psychotherapy works. I'll discuss the expression of anger with my therapist next time...I'm a big talker and tend to over analyse and disect things that I feel and do however, I can't see myself expressing anger towards my therapist. My anxiety is so bad (probably due to years of abuse started in infancy) that I barely leave home knowing that I intend on doing a degree which entails to speak two languages, can't get to work my spanish. Grrrrr!!! ;) 32nd Talk On not expressing my feelings
March 17, 2017
Mark's response: I am glad you found me also. Thank you for your comment. What I said in the video about expressing anger should not be generalized and happens only when the situation between pt. and therapist is ready for that. Don't expect that. It will come if the time is right. And does not have to come to have successful therapy. Remember that. Not all therapists think like me. Good luck. Can I post your comment with your name or initials on my YouTube viewer comment page?
Mark, your hiatus doesn't mean anything, glad you're back. Regarding the approach of modern psychoanalysis toward self-loathing, is the main therapeutic action the gradual expression of the anger--anger turned toward the self and resulting in depression--towards the correct person/object who the anger was directed against? havadatequila March 11, 2017 Talk 31, On not expressing feelings
Mark's response it's better that the anger is gradually turned towards the therapist when the patient is ready in small doses. The therapist will not retaliate, making it a safe situation for the person to be authentic. Eventually the feelings may or may not be directed at the original object. 3/11/17
I like your videos, they are very insightful! :)
Dr. Blue on 10th talk treatment of alcoholism March 2017
Important stuff. Thanks for sharing this video. I'm looking forward to learning more about this topic.
Grambi March on talk 31` On not expressing your feelings
So glad these videos are back! You have really helped me to figure out what I wanted out of the therapy experience. I struggled for a long time to find a therapist who fit with me and met my needs. I have learned so much from you. I have sorta become a therapy nerd! Who knows maybe I'll be a therapist one day. Thanks for doing this channel. It has really meant a lot to me.
Catie P. On Not Following Your Dreams, 30th Talk March ‘17
Great talk Mark! On Not Following Your Dreams, 30th Talk March ‘17
Thank you Mark for sharing such an important topic. Without judgement we are all able to investigate our inner longings to the fullest. Not only judgement from others at a young age but from ourselves as we journey through our lives. it was great to see the face and hear the voice behind the wonderful artwork you share with us occasionally. Thank you! Lola King SCM-CCC, CGRS,
This made my day! I have so missed your presence, via the warm, informative and helpful talks. Please know you are admired and that provide comfort by giving us all your knowledge and views.
Re: talk 30 On not following your dreams Kathleen Stetler 2/28/2017
Thank you Mark for this video. Please may I have your permission to post it (and subsequent ones) to my psychotherapy Facebook page? I think the more information clients and potential clients have about therapy and what they can expect, the better. It may help to lessen the shame that stops us all from showing our real selves and thus having real contact. :) x Re: 1st Talk What makes for a good psychotherapy session and why 2/28/2017 Liz Leech
This video was very informative, it wasn't authoritative, it was a gentle approach that grabbed the attention.
greenfaceman Feb. 2017
Dear Dr. Sehl,
I am writing this e-mail simply to say “thank you” for the videos you have shared on youtube.
I recently started therapy due to having difficulty to fall asleep. Curiosity about therapy brought me to your youtube channel. I appreciate how you explain and show simple human emotions, which in fact can often be so difficult to understand. I admire the great friendship you had with Dr. Lucas. Thank you for sharing that! I wish it had more views. Especially I like video "Dr. Lucas and Mark Sehl walk the streets, Oct. 10, ’14”. I like how a simple 5min walk can contain so much emotion. I am grateful for technology to be able to see these videos made on the other side of the world.
I am grateful for people like you for sharing such videos.
Ieva from Latvia 2/10/2017 Re: the videos with Dr. Gerry Lucas